I was talking to a girlfriend explaining how I felt that my reactions to G.’s actions were excessive I guess. I am not trying to justify everything he does with it, but still, I need to set up internal boundaries to his actions.
The analogy went – imagine if I were overly sensitive to light. And he wasn’t aware of it (I never told him I overreact to anything he does). So would I blame him for turning on the lights now and then and thus blinding me? Or would my hypersensitivity be the cause? Again, that being said, it’s quite possible that some of his actions are very bright lights that would and should blind a normal person. My problem is – I cannot tell the two apart!