So I’ve been doing some reading on trust issues, as I need to get those out of the way, clearly.
One of the points that was made in an article I read went: Look in the mirror! Meaning, if you yourself do something untrustworthy, well then you’ll suspect that behavior in your partner.
And the moment I read that, the Dutch buddy came to my mind. I call him my safety net, like if I’m still somewhat crushed on him, it’s good, cannot be too deep involved with G., just in case.
But on the other hand, it can have a backfire effect in form of adding to my trust anxiety. Now I wonder what to do with all this. For now I’ll just be reminding myself of this conclusion every time my paranoia gets from under control.